The Glass Is Half Full
It’s amazing how two people can stare at the same glass that has water in it. One will see the glass full, while the other sees the glass as half empty. One has sight, while the other has vision, but which one is most important to have? I believe Helen Keller, a woman who was left blind and deaf after a childhood illness in the 1800s, answered this question. She said, “The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision.” Despite her disabilities, she was known for being “one of the most prolific authors, political activists and lecturers “of her time. I learned about Helen Keller when I was in elementary school and admired her tenacity. I wondered how she accomplished all of her achievements and made history considering her circumstance. It wasn’t until I was grown that I understood how vision really worked. Helen always saw the “glass half full” because she had the proper perspective on life. Although people saw her situation as being unfortunate, she saw her situation as being an opportunity; an opportunity to make a difference, despite her natural limitations. She saw her disabilities as opportunities to show others that if you focus on the positives in life, the negatives will not be able to stop you from accomplishing whatever you want to accomplish. She recognized that being physically blind was not as bad as not being able to dream, imagine the future, or plan for a better tomorrow. Helen knew that having vision was much more valuable than having sight, because sometimes our sight can skew our vision. This happens when we look at a situation or problem with our natural eyes, but cannot see beyond it to find a solution, meaning our perspective is off.
When battling infertility and pursuing motherhood, it is important to make sure you have the right perspective, because perspective determines attitude and attitude determine actions. When your perspective is not right, you become so paralyzed by the “what ifs” that you will be reluctant to keep moving forward, when faced with the various obstacles this journey may uncover. If you are going to achieve the desired outcome, you will need to be able to look past the negative and see the positives; so you can use your vision of one day becoming a mom to give you the drive and determination to keep going, even when you feel like quitting.
Principles for the Proper Perspective
1. Always look at the bright side.
2. Don’t blame yourself for your infertility.
3. Know that happiness is not a product of what happens, but rather a choice.
4. You must celebrate each victory, no matter how small.
5. Everything is not drama-worthy, so choose your battles.
6. Focus on what you want, not what you see.
**Taken from page 87 of I Still Want To Be A Mom
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