Elephant Facts For Dealing With Infertility
Updated: Oct 12, 2019
It took my husband and I 8 years to bring a baby home. I say bring a baby home because I discovered the harsh reality that pregnancy does not always equal bringing a baby home. After over six rounds of Clomid, two miscarriages, two laparoscopic surgeries, one D&C, two failed IVF cycles, one failed FET, and an ectopic pregnancy, I was finally able to have my miracle baby from my third IVF cycle (fourth embryo transfer).
Today, I’d like to share with you the one secret that I believe allowed me to achieve this….achieve becoming a mom. Throughout my 8-year journey, I tried so many things. I thought there were 8 or 12 or many steps that I needed to follow to “make it happen”… to finally be able to have my own baby. To my surprise, I was not in control. There was nothing specific that I could try or do that would ensure I would "A" get pregnant and then "B" carry the baby to term to bring a baby home.
I’ll tell you the one secret in a few minutes, but first I want to share six facts about elephants that I believe we can learn from during our journey to bring a baby home:
1. Elephants are the largest land animals on earth
Even though infertility is a LARGE problem, we must realize that we cannot allow it to be LARGER than our life. If we don’t realize this, we will allow fear to take over every aspect of our lives causing our partner and others around us to suffer.
2. Elephants have the longest gestation period of all mammals at almost 2 years.
We must recognize that just because it hasn’t happened for us yet, it doesn’t mean it is not going to happen. Having a baby or completing your family may take longer than you originally expected or longer than it takes for someone else, but your timing is different. Know that it WILL happen for you....even if it is not when and/or how you thought it would happen.
3. Elephants are emotionally intelligent. They have been observed to have good problem-solving skills, the ability to demonstrate empathy, mourning and self-awareness.
Dealing with infertility is an emotional roller-coaster. It can also be a financial roller-coaster. You may have to get creative with solving problems such as financial dilemmas or different treatment options. Even though you are down sometimes, you may have to express empathy for others while mourning your own losses or situation. Most of all, it is important to be self-aware so you know when you are going on a downward spiral emotionally. This will allow you to take action and pull yourself up or seek help if needed.
4. Elephant Tusks are used for defense, offense, digging and lifting objects.
Sometimes we need to protect ourselves for our own mental peace. This may mean addressing emotional triggers by un-following people, staying off of social media, not going to certain events, celebrating important anniversaries of angel babies, speaking positive affirmations, scheduling fun activities during times that may make you more sad, proactively going to certain events, praying, reading encouraging books, and/or participating in other positive activities.
5. Elephant mainly use their trunk for feeding and drinking. They can pick up small things, such as peanuts, with it.
We must “feed” ourselves the right messages and even pick up the smallest pieces of hope (peanuts).
6. Elephants use their big ears to cool themselves down when they are hot.
This represents self-care. You must take care of yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. You must do things that make you happy and are in your best interest even when you don’t feel like it.
In conclusion, the moment you have been waiting for….the one secret that I used to become a mom. The one secret that I believe will ensure that you become a mom too.
Now that I have given you the six elephant facts, there is one other prerequisite. You must first define what it means to be a mom…..To YOU. Do you define being a mom as carrying a child or raising a child? Is it always biological? Can you be a mom by love even if it’s not by blood? How do you define being a mom? I believe knowing the answer to this question is where you must start because it will determine how far you are willing to go to achieve it in the event you have to use an alternative path. Take a moment to think about it….
Now that you have thought about it and have your answer, I can give the one secret that I used to become a mom.
I refused to quit! After each obstacle I kept telling my self, "I Still Want To Be A Mom". After each set back, I said to myself, "I know I’m afraid of disappointment, but I still want to be a mom". If you have defined what being a mom is to you , and you have had set back after set back and you cannot shake the feeling of wanting to have your own child to raise, then you will be a mom. All you must do is refuse to quit and remember that you too, are an elephant.
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